99 Problems

Feelings, nothing more than feelings….

They can destroy you. And I’m not saying this from a coldhearted place. It’s really from a place of love. If you love yourself you need to control your feelings. If you don’t, someone esle will whether they love you as much as you should or not.

Many, if not all of us go through a stage in life where complaining and making excuses are the daily reaction to anything that could potentially keep us from being who/where we want to be.

Far too often we don’t dig into why or where this emotion keeps finding ways to make us listen to its little victimizing self pity.

This state of mind keeps us from being where we need to be mentally and physically to get the most out of our life here on earth. So let’s tackle this, because it seems to be where our depression and disappointment lies. Right there with the little bitch inside of us resides.

Not deraogtory to the external human. I’m referring to the side of us that lets emotion and excuses dictate our behavior. Because being in a better place in life takes work. And when we focus on feelings and emotions we get nowhere but a pit of sorrow and complaints. Thats’s disappointing and “Bitchy”.

We have an idea of where we want to be in life. In order to get there it takes action. You have to get moving, it’s imparative. We set out to get things done and fail to take action on them. Once that moment has passed most of us enter an immediate state of regret. Taking into account all the elements of our situation we usually realize how doable this task actually was. That’s frustrating. So why do we keep doing it? Someting inside of us isn’t playing nice. It literally counters all we seek to achive. And this internal energy knows how to play us against our actions. Remember no one knows us better than ourselves. And we underustimate our subcouncious because we can’t typically predict it’s behavior. But if we were to really tune in we would see patterns and understand how to fight for ourselves.

When you rest in a position of anxiety and depression, that’s your progressive instinct telling you that you need to do something about your situation. It could be anyhting. But let’s start with the most effective factor - Physical fitness. Reason being, it effects directly the mindset that you may struggle with.

Unhealthy routines, environments, and inner fears can make it difficult to move forward in life.  Here are some things that may be holding you back:

• Past mistakes
  Dwelling on past mistakes can prevent you from moving forward. Instead, accept them, learn from them, and use them as motivation.

• Comparing your progress to others
  Comparing your progress to others' can negatively affect how you feel about your own progress.
  

• Negative self-judgment
  You may be judging yourself by telling yourself a story inside of your head. Instead, create a positive narrative about your dreams and goals that includes only the circumstances that matter.

Here are some challenges that we get used to living with. These factors directly affect your ability to become the healthiest version of yourself.

1. Lack of Motivation:

Many individuals struggle with the intrinsic motivation needed to start or maintain a regular exercise routine. This can be due to a lack of immediate rewards or visible progress, leading to discouragement.

In the beginning you feel amazing, like weights are being lifted off of you. And when you look in the mirror, you see no change. One thing to factor into your reality is: when you were living the life full of unhealthiness, you first felt good on the inside. Following that feeling were the external results of you damaging yourself, even though it felt good. Well working out is somewhat of the same process, but the opposite result. You will feel amazing some days, like you’ve overcome a lot. In those same days you may see nothing change, externally. But your mind and inner physical will benefit first. The accomplishment comes with dicipline. The results will come. The good thing about this process is when the results come, you will building a strong lifestyle habit of good health.

2. Mental Health Challenges:

Depression, anxiety, and other mental health issues can significantly reduce an individual's energy and motivation levels, making it harder to engage in physical activity.

I can’t diagnose anyone with any type of sickness. Nor will I determine if you should see a doctor for any reason. But I will tell you from my personal experience there is only an “on the surface” type of help that did anything for me. I was able to configure through conversation with a therapist where my issues were. That top layer of understanding allowed me to dig and realize that there was not much wrong with me other than I was lazy, and I complained a lot. All I am saying is for you to be honest with yourself when being diagnosed. Don’t allow an outsider to give you more excuses.

3. Perceived Lack of Time:

Busy schedules and demanding lifestyles often lead individuals to believe they do not have enough time for exercise, making it a common excuse for physical inactivity.

Time is such an interesting topic because. No one ever has enough time. However these same individuals that claim no time seem to always find time to relax. Excusing that it’s the only time they have to do nothing. Well I’d like to offer if you aren’t where you want to be physically for mentally and you are aware, why are you relaxing? The energy spent exercising or being active is energy gained daily. And with that when you actually get time to relax it’s also an extreme version of relaxation that you feel the difference. That was for a very small percentage of you that actually may have a time demanding work and life schedule. Now in between those and the actually Outright lazy people are the excuse makers. And you know who you are. You procrastinate until there actually isn’t any time left to do anything. Which somehow allows you to believe you’ve proven your point. But I can see right through your excuses. There’s always a way around your reasoning. But it doesn’t cater to your laziness so you continue to make excuses. Take 10 mins of non stop movement at any point of your day.

4. Physical Limitations:

Chronic pain, injuries, disabilities, or other physical conditions can hinder one's ability to participate in regular physical activity, leading to avoidance and excuses.

You probably think I should, and maybe even would take it easy on these individuals. And technically I will. There’s no way I can ask someone with chronic pain to stop being a “bitch” but let’s not forget there is an opioid problem here in this country. So again make sure you are being honest with yourself. Because masking the pain doesn’t cure the pain. If you wanted to truly cure the pain you should try stretching techniques, hot yoga and things of that nature. Even just stretching sometimes is way better than not moving at all. Consult with your physician and figure out what you can do. Minimal is better than nothing.

5. Low Self-Efficacy:

People often doubt their ability to engage in exercise due to past failures or a lack of fitness, which can prevent them from starting or sticking with an exercise program.

This one here. Man If I could tell you how much the fear of failure is so valid. Because if you don’t, or haven’t worked out in so long, how could you expect not to fail when you start up. You will fail. But it’s ok. That is the part that teaches you the lesson you need in order to keep goin when times get harder than that. Because once you get over your first failures as a beginner, or a restarter, the next level is constant production and confidence to not allow it to happen anymore. So you will begin to push yourself so thoroughly that you won’t even recognize yourself. And then you’re on your way.

6. Negative Past Experiences:

Previous negative experiences with exercise, such as embarrassment, injury, or lack of enjoyment, can deter future participation.

Kind of the same as the prior reason. I mean if you’ve failed before you should know one thing is a fact. IT Doesn’t Kill You. On top of that you should recognize an important factor. You now have something that pure beginners don’t have - experience. You actually might be able to teach a thing or two about getting back up. That’s all you need to do. Get back up.

7. Social Influence and Environment:

Lack of social support, or living in an environment that does not encourage or facilitate physical activity, can significantly impact one's motivation and opportunity to engage in exercise.

Oh yeah I’ve been through this. You can easily go two completely opposite ends of the spectrum with this. Because while a lot of people are embarrassed to look like fools and just don’t show up. There are tons of people who are embarrassed, show up and make themselves look like fools because they do too much and end up hurting themselves. I can’t stress this point enough. “WHAT OTHERS THINK OF YOU IS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS”. The only way to not “embarrass yourself” is to do it enough to where you display growth. Be consistent enough to denounce all doubt that you don’t know what you’re doing. Because, a lot of those people you’re worried about have no idea what theyre doing. And if you stay consistent long enough to see the possibility of drastic change, you’ll realize how consistently pointless a lot of their workouts are.

But I digress. It’s not about anyone else other than you.

8. Lack of Knowledge:

Uncertainty about how to start an exercise program or confusion about what activities are most beneficial can lead to procrastination and excuses.

There are way too many outlets now for this excuse I mean literally go to Youtube and look up “How to” anything. Endless information. No you can’t trust it all and you should have someone who knows what they’re doing at least monitor your growth. However. I’d like to suggest finding someone that looks the way you desire. They have been through the fire and could give you really good advice. No offense to those that don’t have the desired look. But how can you honestly tell me how to be a millionaire if you’ve never been one? Empty teachings from the book of no experience. I’ll pass

9. Fear of Injury:

Especially among older adults or those who are out of shape, the fear of getting injured during exercise can be a significant barrier to physical activity.

The more advanced you become the more this could be a factor. It really shouldn’t be a factor in the beginning. If you’re working with a good trainer or taking lessons online from an experienced influencer. They both should have been through the fire and know how to approach the beginner without risking injuring. But when you aren’t ready for activity, you have to be honest with what you’re capable of doing.

10. Prioritization of Other Activities:

Some people may prioritize work, leisure activities, or other interests over exercise, using them as justifications for their lack of physical activity.

Just another excuse. Every second to the minute in the day there’s another activity that needs to take priority over your physical health? SMH Ok I guess I should probably stop there.